When Minding Your Own Business Harms Others
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal Another story of abuse, silencing and injustice is being uncovered across the blogosphere at the moment. It’s a story that’s been lived out,...
View ArticleTalking My Way to Spiritual Health
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts “I’m praying for your healing.” “What makes you think I’m not healed?” “You keep talking about it. You won’t talk about it any more once you are...
View ArticleWhy Can’t Churches Deal With Disagreement?
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal Yesterday I sat in the school car park being entertained by the behaviour of the man who had desperately wanted to be ‘king’ at my ex-church....
View ArticleDo Tell!
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I receive many messages thanking me for sharing my story of spiritual abuse via this blog. People ask if they may use what I have written in their...
View ArticleConfessing to That Which I Did Not Do
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I was watching one of those real life crime drama shows recently. I can’t remember if it was Dateline or 20/20 or 48 Hours, but the story was...
View ArticlePart 9 Reacting from a Place of Vulernability – Adventures in Ambiguity
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace used with permission Before developing as fairly functional internal locus of control and...
View ArticleTurning Evil to Good
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal (An Update on my Story) In the biblical story of Joseph, his brothers hated him so much that they attacked him and then sold him into slavery...
View ArticleLaw of Kindness: How Christianity Affects My Ethics
by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.com I’m a spiritual abuse survivor, fundamentalist cult survivor, abuse survivor, and rape survivor; I’m part of the LGBT community and, as...
View ArticleChurches That Abuse: Part 1 Why Good People Do Bad Things and why Bad People...
by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser Churches attract all kinds of people with varying motivations for being a part of a particular religion. I spent...
View ArticleThe Tommy Trauma Trap and Survivor Wars
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace As always images by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace used with permission A few weeks ago, Dwayne Walker graciously allowed me to post his...
View ArticlePsychological Socialism – Manipulating by Equalizing Blame
by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd What is “psychological socialism”? I’m so glad you asked! It’s a term I coined a few years ago as rough concept after reading a...
View ArticleDaffodil Season Ends but Recovery Continues
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. More than a month ago, I learned about some cruel gossip that’s...
View ArticleElie Wiesel Would Have Been Disappointed in You
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I haven’t posted in awhile. But the death of Elie Wiesel brought to mind this quote the spirit of which has always been at the forefront of my...
View Article‘Bloom Where You’re Planted’ as a Thought Stopping Cliche
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman at Under Much Grace and used with permission. Article is 4 pages long. I’d heard that phrase before, but even...
View ArticleWhy People Support Abusive Leaders in the Church
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts In those crushing months after we left our first abusive church (read Part 2 of my story), one of the things I struggled with was, how could the...
View ArticleDo Hurt People, Hurt People?
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal There is an old saying, “Hurt people, hurt people.” The idea is that people who have been hurt will lash out and hurt others in their pain....
View ArticleBanging the Buttons
by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd With a malevolent yet gleeful grin, a young man strode up and rapidly banged the button on the right: VERY POOR. Like ten times. Huh?...
View ArticleAbuse Does Exist and We Will Not Shut Up! – Answering Father Longenecker
by Suzanne Titkemeyer This morning as I was drinking my first reviving and refreshing cup of coffee and scrolling through Facebook a post by another Patheos author came up on my feed that pulled me in....
View ArticleQuoting Quiverfull: Silencing Sexually Abused People in the Church?
by Tim Bayly from Bayly Blog – Sexual Abuse: Church Coverups Don’t Justify Witch Hunts Editor’s note: One of the more sick and twisted things to come from the writings of pastor Tim Bayly. One part...
View ArticleHalos and Objectification
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace and used with permission. I’ve spent years reading, thinking, and writing about...
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